Please tell me I'm not crazy!

I am 9 days out from surgery and I swear she didn't operate on me!  I feel like I am not losing AT ALL.  Of course I have to weigh myself daily, which is not a smart thing to do.  I guess I am just having a moment,  I read stories of people who lose 40 lbs. in that 1st month, which I know everyone is different, but I wanted to be the one to lose at least 41!!!!  I think my whole problem is that I am sick of this darn protein!  And Duke scheduled my nut appt for 5 days after my 3 week date...so now I am stuck on it for that much longer.  Anyhoo...thanks again for listening to me whine.  This too shall pass! Hugs to you all!!! Kim edited cause I can't type :)

I lost nothing my first 2 weeks post-op... then the scale finally moved - 3lbs. Please dont compare yourself to others - that will only lead you to disappointment and feeling like a failure. 40lbs in a month isnt a *realistic* expectation - while it does happen, its not realistic. The 'average' weight loss is much lower than 40lbs... OH also has a weight loss estimator chart you can look at - it bases the average off your excess weight - I think it does 10% a month for the first 6 of your excess? Something like that.  Also keep in mind we all have different surgeries - there is proximal RNY, medial RNY and distal RNY... depending on how much was bypassed it will change the rate at which you lose. The amounts you can lose is the same with all the surgeries... but the speed changes (typically, there are always exceptions). 

LOL...WELL if she didn't operate on you and never told you then you may have a lawsuit on your hands..hehehe BUt I bet, chances are she did!!!  You are only 9 days out and they may have given you ALOT of fluids, saline, and you may be hanging on to some water retention! But I am sure that here in a week or 2 you will see that scale move!!  I am just over 3 weeks out and have literally been losing a pound a day!! I am down 23 lbs. in 23 days.  As far as thinking they operated on me..HAHA I feel fabulous and have not felt any pain in a good week and a half to 2 weeks!!!  I would LOVE to be one to lose 41lbs. in the first month, but the more i think about it, i am thrilled with 1 lb a day because it is giving my skin a chance to keep up with my loss.  Hang in there girl, your WOW day will come, you just wait and see!!

Kim, Don't get upset about not losing... it will start to come off. I left the hospital and GAINED weight (like almost 15 pounds!) I was SOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOO upset.  You find out that it is mainly water weight from them pumping you with IV meds and it does come off. I can't remember exactly how much I lost the first month-- I'd have to go back and look-- but I'm almost 6 months out nad I've lost 85 pounds since surgery and 124 total... it WILL come off, it just may not come off as fast as you think it should. I have slowed down drastically-- to maybe 10 pounds a month or so and that is depressing. I just keep telling myself, the SLOWER I lose it, the healthier I'll be and MAYBE, just MAYBE I won't have as many excess skin issues as someone who lost it faster... That is just me trying to make myself feel better... *hehe* ANYWAY, all this to say, it will come off. Just give it time, follow your protocol and you will be losing LOTS before you know it.  be sure to take pictures and measure also, b/c sometimes the scales won't show it, but the measurements will! Good luck!

Hi Kim -

It's so normal to feel this way. I dropped about 14 lbs in the first week to 10 days then NADA, Nothing! I thought OMGoodness, I'm the person it won't work for ... but that's not the case. You'll lose it, I promise. Jennifer is so very right ... 40 lbs is not unheard of, but rare. If you can't find the weight loss estimator that Jennifer referred to you might try www.thinnerself.com. It was created by a fellow RNY patient. The data is demographically keyed so that when you enter your own age, height, weight at surgery, surgery date, etc... it searches for people that match your demographics and length of time out from surgery and then does a calculation that let's you know how you are doing at the point in time. Remember that this changes and varies from day to day and week to week. The reason that I like this site was that it helped me to realize that I'm doing okay, that while I may not be losing as much as "Suzy Q", I'm doing well for someone who is my age, sex, height, start weight and date and current weight and date ...

I hope that this helps some.

Hang in there kiddo ... It's going to be just fine.

Barb

Right now I don't even have scales in my house!!!  I plan to see if I have lost anything when I have my 2 week check.  My stomach is still swollen, and I didn't expect anything else - all the gas they pumped in and all the moving around of insides with instruments!!! Right now I plan to weigh myself once a week - anything else will drive me crazy, but first, I must get some decent scales.  I haven't been on any at my house in so long - the only weights I have seen are all the appointments associated with the surgery.

Hey Kim: I agree we all lose at different rates.  I am 5 weeks and 3 days post surgery.   My first 17 days after surgery, I lost 17 lbs.... since then i have only lost an add'l  9 lbs but the point is the scale is going in the right direction.   I would like it to "poof" off but that is not realistic.  Your wt loss will catch up and yes you had the surgery. good luck and take care, Pam